Wednesday, 02 December 2020

Our answer? #GreatJoys

I don’t know actress Alyssa Milano. 

Because of this, it’s not my job to pontificate on, analyze or even judge her recent statements regarding her two abortions in 1993. You can read more here, but in short, Milano claims that without the two abortions she obtained within months of each other, “My life would be completely lacking all its great joys. I would never had been free to be myself—and that’s what this fight is all about: freedom.”

The former “Who’s the Boss?” star went on to say that without the abortions, she would not have been able to have her two “beautiful, perfect, loving, kind and inquisitive children” with her husband, David Bugliari.

On Twitter, responses to Milano’s admissions barreled in from both sides. Some praised her for speaking out for “choice,” while some on the right side of the aisle called her a murderer.

But Jarrid Wilson, a pastor to young adults at Harvest Christian Fellowship in Riverside, CA, had a different take. Using Milano’s wording of “great joys,” he invited his more than 70,000 followers to respond this way: “Everyone should post a picture of their kids and use the hashtag #GreatJoys.”

The response was nothing short of amazing. Photos flooded Twitter, and in the last week, Wilson made appearances on talk shows around the country, including a stint on Fox News.

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My take: Jarrid Wilson is a genius—and a perfect example of what it means to promote life.

Advocating for life takes creativity, insight and a lot of love. Wilson—in one Tweet of 14 words--encompasses all three.

Frankly, those claiming the pro-life banner who “called out,” “mic-dropped” or “crushed” Alyssa Milano for her 1993 decisions did little, if anything, to advance a culture of life. Sure, their Twitter buddies might have retweeted, liked or somehow high-fived them for their smack-down comments. But crass Tweets against someone who disagrees with us only mirror our culture. They don’t change the status quo.

In his 14 words, Wilson soared above the rhetoric and found a way for those in the pro-life community to shift the narrative without resorting to tired, worn-out bumper sticker phrases.

Wilson focused on love. By doing so, he turned the emotional tide, at least on the conservative side. Interestingly, his “pinned tweet” in his Twitter profile focuses on how any opinion—without love—sounds like nothing more than a clanging cymbal (from I Corinthians 13). He certainly practices what he preaches.

It’s a funny thing. As we talk about protecting life, truth is important. But knowing truth is the easy part. The challenge is to share what we know in a loving, creative fashion.

Wilson’s 14-word tweet challenges me, and I hope, all of us in the Pregnancy Help Community. 

Though we have ultrasound, stacks of medical information regarding fetal development and incredible support available for those facing unplanned pregnancies, love is what our patients and clients need most.

Tweet This: Though we have ultrasound, stacks of medical information and incredible support available, love is what our patients and clients need most.

Not to dwell on the past, but would life be different today for Alyssa Milano, had she found a pregnancy help ministry back in 1993? I have no idea. And, as I mentioned above, it’s not my role to play commentator on someone else’s life.

But I do know this: Each day in the Pregnancy Help Community, we reach out to women and men who cannot think of one good reason to bring a child into this world. It’s our mission—our calling—to rise above the memes and slogans and bring hope to what seems a hopeless situation.

No, we can’t change what happened in 1993, and endless commentaries or analyses won’t do much good, either. But we can do something about tomorrow. 

Tomorrow, someone may come in our door in the middle of a crisis, desperately needing a ray of hope. Because we choose to love, we are prepared. And this love has the capacity to create #GreatJoy. 

Kirk Walden

Kirk Walden is a senior writer with Pregnancy Help News, an Advancement Specialist with Heartbeat International and author of The Wall. For banquet speaking engagements, contact Gloria Leyda at Ambassador Speakers Bureau. His new Faith Revolution Podcast is online at

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